You know that feeling you get just before a vacation? You’re giddy with anticipation. The build up is palpable. You furiously finish work assignments and skip out of the office early. The excitement grows as you organize your clothes and gather up your toiletries. Passport - check. Dramamine - yup. Phone charger - packed. A… Continue reading It’s Been a Trip
Saying farewell to something you love is often associated with sadness and longing. People are particularly hard to leave or let go. But what about the destructive things in our lives? Why are these so hard to release? I learned about the concept of writing a goodbye letter to alcohol only recently, but it's brilliantly simple… Continue reading Long Goodbyes
4 years ago this month, my 48-year-old brother and only sibling died of kidney and liver failure in a Houston hospital, the result of years of alcohol abuse that finally put an end to the party. He wasn't homeless or penniless. He wasn't unemployed or mentally ill. He was smart, wickedly funny, and strikingly handsome.… Continue reading Life is a beautiful lie, and death a painful truth.
10 months sober and valuing progress over perfection
When you're sober, the spotlight suddenly doesn't seem so important.
I’ve been divorced since 1997, darn near 20 years. In that time, I’ve had lots of relationships, some good and some awful. The good ones were exceptions and the bad ones were the rule. The bad relationships were generally due to my choices in men, made when under the influence. I’ve got an excellent track… Continue reading No Really, I’m Fine
After 8+ months of sobriety and AA meetings, I have just added Al-Anon meetings to my schedule. I'm dipping my toe in the water gingerly as this is something out of my comfort zone. AA has been and continues to be my main focus and central to my recovery from alcoholism. But in working the 12… Continue reading Let’s Try Something New